Principles to Stop Divisive Communication

Divisiveness is prevalent in our society, evident in political differences, online comments, and strained family relationships. To address this growing issue, enhancing communication skills becomes crucial. Here are four principles to improve communication and foster understanding:

1. Stay Open Even If They Aren't

Influence Through Openness: To influence others, be open to understanding their ideas without necessarily changing your views. Confidently Closeminded People (CCPs) fear new ideas; openness to truth is a safer approach. "Suspending your certainty" allows for open-minded communication.

Rule: Appreciate and consider both sides of an argument; avoid unnecessary polarization.

2. Listen to Understand, Not Grandstand

Understanding Builds Trust: Understanding someone, even if you disagree, strengthens the bond and fosters trust. Trust is more built on understanding than agreement. Active listening helps lower emotions and increases influence.

Rule: Use understanding as a tool to lower emotion and enhance influence.

3. Don't Demonize the Differences

Humanize Instead of Demonize: Demonizing others worsens the feeling of safety. Humanize by imagining a loved one sharing similar opinions; feel their point of view. Uncover fears to understand aggressive behavior.

Rule: Humanize the person by empathizing with their fears; imagine a loved one in their shoes.

4. Live Your Whole Truth

Integrate All Values: Avoid myopic approaches to divisive issues; explore multiple options aligned with various truths. Live your whole truth by incorporating all values and principles. Maintain integrity by involving various values in supporting current issues.

Rule: You can have a position on a current issue, but ensure it aligns with your broader set of values.

By practicing these principles, individuals can contribute to reducing divisiveness, fostering understanding, and creating healthier communities.