More Love Lessons Your Children Need to Hear Before Getting Married

I am starting a new series about love lessons your Children Need to Hear Before Getting Married. This comes from the advice I’ve been giving my children as they are starting to get married and move on in the world. Here are five we covered last time I was on the show. Last time we talked about:

1. The Obstacle is the Way

The best way to get good at difficult things is to do difficult things. Embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Avoiding fears only imprisons you; facing them leads to resilience. The best marriages are those where couples effectively handle their issues and recover.

2. You Never Step into the Same River Twice

Constant change is inherent in life; never assume you fully understand others. Actively listen and ask for clarification instead of making assumptions. Acknowledge that true understanding is limited, and continuous communication is essential.

3. Your Connection Cannot Run Deeper Than Your Character

Chemistry may initiate a relationship, but character sustains it. Trust is built on character traits like honesty, loyalty, and love. Character is developed through conscious effort, and it shapes the depth of relationships. Use your character strengths to enhance your relationship.

4. Sharing Your Vulnerability Is the Straightest Path to Greater Closeness

Vulnerability is a part of being human; sharing it fosters intimacy. Choose between sharing vulnerability or letting shame fester. Partners with character can hold and support your vulnerabilities. Rituals of vulnerability, like praying together or apologizing, strengthen connections.

5. We Love Whom We Serve

Love is an action; serving your partner daily fosters love. Dedicate time each day to perform a special act of service for your partner. Serve not for reciprocation but to genuinely love your partner more. Differentiate between reciprocal and unconditional love; practice serving without expectations.

Activity: One Month Challenge

Go one month completely losing yourself in serving one person every single day.

Every morning: Think of your partner, their day, their needs, and their love language. Ask the Loving Question: What’s the most important thing I can do today to love my partner their way? Deliver the love. Reflect on the love you feel for your partner at the end of the night.