"For You in 2022": Showing Up for Our Loved Ones

In the wake of a pandemic that emphasized social distancing and heightened loneliness, the goal for 2022 is to prioritize relationships by actively "showing up" for our loved ones. The loneliness epidemic and a growing disconnect despite increased connectivity underscore the need for intentional efforts to strengthen bonds and offer genuine support.

1. Goal for Relationships in 2022

To prioritize face-to-face connected relationships over everything else, intentionally waking up from the social slumber, and paying genuine attention to one another.

2. Reasons Behind the Goal

- Post-pandemic challenges: The pandemic led to literal and social distancing.

- Loneliness epidemic: Chronic loneliness is as harmful as a pack-a-day smoking habit.

- Increasing disconnection despite connectivity.

- The Loneliness Paradox: An aging population experiences more solitude, and younger generations struggle with face-to-face connections.

3. Desired Outcomes

- Prioritize face-to-face connected relationships over other pursuits.

- Wake up from the social slumber and pay genuine attention to one another.

- Discipline ourselves for deep, intentional, and meaningful relationships.

- Address the loneliness epidemic by helping those who feel disconnected to find belonging within the tribe.

4. Three Specific Ways to Work Toward the Goal
5. Practice Directing Your Attention

- Be present in your life; practice synchrony by connecting with those around you.

- Prioritize face-to-face interactions; break the addiction to technology.

- Conduct an "Attention Test" to evaluate the quality and quantity of attention in relationships.

1. Shine a Light to Find the Light

- Identify and eliminate negative influences in your life.

- Conduct a "Light Test" to assess the positivity you bring into others' lives.

- Share positivity through deep conversations, sincere comments, and intentional acts of kindness.

1. Give a Minute From Your Highest Self

- Overcome guilt and shame associated with not showing up for others.

- Distinguish between actions from the highest self (love, peace) and the lower self (guilt, fear).

- Embrace the "1:11 Second Rule" to quickly identify and act on opportunities to show up for others.

In 2022, the focus is on actively engaging in relationships, breaking free from the social slumber induced by the pandemic, and fostering deep connections. By directing attention, spreading positivity, and consistently showing up for others, we can create a sense of belonging and combat the loneliness epidemic, ultimately leading to happier and more fulfilled lives.