An “Emotional Connectivity” Check Up

Science is emphasizing the essential role of a loving and close relationship with a spouse, not only contributing to a better life but being a crucial component of healthy living. Emotional connection promotes longevity, faster recovery from pain, increased success, and improved resilience in the face of life's challenges. However, many individuals struggle with emotional connectivity due to past experiences or unsafe family dynamics. Here are four questions to assess the strength of emotional connection in your marriage:

1. Do you monitor and maintain emotional closeness in your marriage?

   - Is emotional closeness on your radar, or are daily activities and social media overshadowing its importance?

   - Do you notice and discuss emotional needs and fears openly, without leading to chaos or arguments?

   - Are you hiding your emotional needs, fearing vulnerability, or expressing when you're not feeling the necessary emotional connection?

Note: Emotional connectedness needs active monitoring and nurturing to foster strong bonds.

2. Do you reach out to your spouse when you're down?

   - Emotionally connected couples seek each other's support during tough times, knowing that shared vulnerability strengthens their relationship.

   - Do you turn to your spouse rather than isolating yourself or lashing out?

   - Recognizing the strength in reaching out and apologizing or forgiving when necessary enhances emotional connection.

Note: Emotional strength lies in seeking support and navigating challenges together.

3. Do you miss your spouse when you are apart?

   - Strong emotional connections lead to missing your partner when they're not around, indicating a fulfilling relationship.

   - If you don't feel a sense of absence when apart, it might signal a lack of emotional connection or divided attention.

   - Missing each other signifies a deeper bond that goes beyond physical presence.

Note: Absence making the heart grow fonder is a testament to emotional connectedness.

4. Do you feel stronger to take on the world knowing your spouse will be there?

   - Emotional connections provide a support system, instilling confidence that you have someone who has your back.

   - A connected partner boosts confidence and helps face the world with strength.

   - Knowing you don't have to navigate life alone offers hope and security.

 Note: Emotional connections serve as a foundation for tackling life's challenges together.

Remember, answering 'No' to some questions doesn't imply doom for your marriage. Instead, it signifies areas for improvement and an opportunity for both partners to contribute to building a deeper emotional connection through open and honest communication.