What’s a common day in your house look like? Does it involve putting off your children manipulating you into giving them “one more ice cream cone”, and if you don’t they scream and shout? According to Dr. Sean Grover, if that’s the case, you need to stop letting your kids take advantage of you, and put an end to the grueling cycle of kids’ bulling their parents:
“When I examined the personal histories of parents whose children bully them, I discovered that these parents tended to have been bullied by their parents as well. The culture of bullying is often passed on from one generation to the next. Parents who were bullied as children remain victims of bullying, only now their children are the perpetrators.
Parents who were bullied by their parents may overcompensate with their own children by being too permissive. For example, adults who grow up in homes with overly strict parents tend to be very liberal with their kids. They set out to undo their own history by giving their children the freedom that they were denied. These parents often vow in their youth, “When I grow up, I won’t treat my kids the way I was treated.” -Dr. Sean Grover
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Matt talks with Dr. Sean Grover, a psychotherapist and author of the book WHEN KIDS CALL THE SHOTS: How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully – and Enjoy Parenting Again. Dr. Grover has worked with parents and children for over 20 years, and maintains one of the largest group therapy practices in the United States. More and more parents these days don’t realize they are actually letting their own children bully them and fill their homes with screaming, kicking, and floods of tears. Dr. Grover teachs us how to reassert our roles as parents.