Dr. Matt Townsend is a relationship coach, a communications expert, and a life coach who has been helping couples for more than twenty years. Known as one of America’s top presenters in the field of human relations and development, Matt blends humor, storytelling, and gospel insights with interactive, real-life solutions that motivate and inspire his listeners to build and maintain successful relationships.
In Enduring Love, Matt uses the acronym STARVED to help couples examine seven basic needs that are critical to all healthy relationships. He says, “That’s what you are called to do: to make each other feel Safe (physically, financially, socially, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually), to Trust each other, to Appreciate, to Respect, to Validate, to Encourage, and to be Dedicated.” He says most relationships are lacking in one or more of these areas, but he teaches how to feed a STARVED relationship and stay on the path to building an eternal bond with your spouse. He says, “In my mind, love is meeting those seven basic needs.”
He teaches that our covenants make the difference. You are in a covenant. Your covenant is with you, the Lord, and your partner. Live your covenant. Christ is the exemplar of relationships. Are you resembling your Savior?